The loss of a loved one can be difficult to process, as there’s no way of ‘fixing’ the grieving feeling. You can’t wish it away, or can you fast forward through it, as much as you may want to. Feelings of immense grief do get less frequent as time passes, however, there will always be a part of you that is still grieving, despite the time passed. 

That’s why, here at Waters & Sons Funeral Directors, we’ve put together a few ideas, and small actions, that could make the pain a little more bearable, while providing a sense of comfort during a challenging time.

Express how you feel

Psychologists have long encouraged expressing how you feel. It’s essential you find a way to identify, and accept, how you are feeling. You don’t even have to share with another person, it can be as simple as emptying your feelings onto a journal page. However, if you do feel comfortable talking about your grief with a friend or family member, it can be very beneficial in reducing the intensity of your emotions. Bottling up your emotions can be damaging to your mental health.

Look after yourself

Grief can play havoc with your physical health, it can cause disrupted sleep, loss of appetite, and general feelings of nausea. While you can’t help the natural feelings associated with grief, sleeping when you can, and eating well regularly will give you more strength to deal with your emotions.

Join a support group or community

Support groups can be a great place to share feelings. Meeting people who understand what you’re going through can make you feel less alone. Contact a bereavement organisation, or give us a call, to help find a group close to you. 

Take up a new activity or revisit a hobby 

Finding a hobby, or activity that you can invest your time in can be a rewarding way to distract yourself from your feelings. Creative crafts, sports or arts will provide a sense of achievement, while stimulating positive emotions in your brain, that keep you healthy. 

After losing someone special to you, you can lose enthusiasm, and joy for things you once enjoyed. When you’re ready, returning to hobbies will help with the healing process, as you find enjoyment in the small things again. 

Keep to a routine 

For many, a routine provides a sense of structure, and security in an uncertain, and unnatural time. Having weekend plans, and a structured week can help. It gives your life purpose, structure and clarity, as you learn to cope with your grief. 

Keep social with friends 

Grieving can be an isolating experience. While it’s natural to once be alone, maintaining your social network can provide you with the support and guidance you need. Schedule a phone call, or meet up with a close friend. Most importantly, don’t feel guilty for having fun, it’s completely okay, and exactly what your loved one would want for you. 

Remembrance 

Dealing with your grief does not mean blocking out memories of your loss. People often find comfort in finding ways to keep their loved one’s memory alive. Keeping special possessions, or a photo album of memories, is a great way to celebrate their life. Ensuring they hold a place in your heart, and life.

Here at Waters & Sons Funeral Directors, our personal, dedicated family run funeral services, based in Southampton, is on hand to care for your family throughout the whole process, offering expert help and advice, 24 hours a day. Whether you’re planning a funeral, searching for a high-quality coffin, or needing funeral service advice, you can count on us.